How does divorce effect children?

Divorce can be a very traumatic experience for a child to go through. Even if the divorce is amicable and the parents get along, children can become confused and frustrated with the division of their stability.

It is very common for children to experience the following feelings:
* Worry parents don't love them anymore and they feel abandoned.
* Powerless and helpless
* Anger although they may not express their anger.
* Often feel they are at fault. May believe something they did or said caused a parent to leave.
* Divorce is a loss in the lives of children and parents. Can experience a grieving process very similar to mourning a death.
* Conflicts of loyalty.


Watch for these red flags during and after a divorce has been announced to the children:
* Sleep problems
* Poor concentration, chronic forgetfulness, declining grades
* Drug or alcohol abuse
* Sexual promiscuity
* Self-injury, cutting

Using the OurFamilyWizard website can help to reduce the emotional toll your divorce will have on your children. It will help to keep the kids out of the middle and provide the parents with a way to share information without using the kids as messengers. Children need to be protected during this difficult time.