OurFamilyWizard’s exclusive tool, ToneMeter, helps co-parents communicate with less conflict and more civility.
TONEMETER & Writing Assistant
Write calmer co-parenting messages, faster
ToneMeter and Writing Assistant help you say what you need to say, without sparking unnecessary conflict or second-guessing every line. ToneMeter flags language that could increase tension in your messages. Then Writing Assistant suggests a clearer, calmer version.
Reshape your communication
You don’t have to keep stressing about messy conversations. Instead, use ToneMeter and Writing Assistant to produce neutral, productive messages, no matter how you felt when you wrote the original version.
These tools can change the co-parenting experience from the ground up by transforming how you communicate.
ToneMeter helps you recognise language that could trigger trouble. Then, Writing Assistant offers to rewrite your message so that it’s calm and focused on problem-solving. Depending on your situation, you can pick a considerate, casual, neutral, direct, or professional tone.
These tools interrupt the cycle of conflict and make sure the conversation centers around your child.
Writing a message to your co-parent can take ages. You might rewrite the same sentence again and again, trying to avoid escalating the situation while still making your point. Writing Assistant takes over that mental load so you can feel confident instead of on edge.
Just tap the sparkles to respond with a respectful, businesslike message, without losing your meaning.
When communication focuses on the kids’ wellbeing, not the parents’ emotions, it’s much easier to collaborate on decisions and coordinate on daily details. You can focus on solutions instead of problems. That frees up more emotional bandwidth to be there for your child during a difficult time.
Calm, productive communication helps create a more stable, less stressful environment for your child. It gives them room to thrive.
Customised to support co-parenting communication
Unlike other AI tools, Writing Assistant is designed from the ground up for co-parenting. With 25 years of experience in supporting separated families and real feedback from co-parents, we created a tool that’s not just smart but also supportive. Writing Assistant…
- Doesn’t change your meaning.
- Doesn’t delete important details.
- Does make your message sound calm and neutral.
- Does focus on making good decisions for the kids.
Plus, Writing Assistant is built right into OurFamilyWizard, so you don’t have to switch apps or copy and paste. It’s centralised, along with the rest of your co-parenting tools.
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Private feedback
No one else sees what ToneMeter flags. Writing Assistant’s suggestions are optional. Your original messages are private. Message drafts aren’t saved or shared with your co-parent until you tap send.
Choose your tone
You have options: considerate, casual, neutral, direct, or professional. Co-parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all, so pick the tone that matches your situation best. Even though you had help, it still sounds human.
You’re in control
If ToneMeter flags negative language, you don’t have to change it. If Writing Assistant offers a rewrite and you don’t like it, you don’t have to use it. You can edit it or ignore it.
Designed for co-parenting communication
Unlike regular AI tools, ToneMeter and Writing Assistant understand the nuances of co-parenting communication. ToneMeter knows what would escalate the situation. Writing Assistant follows best principles for calm communication.
Frequently Asked Questions
Have more questions? Contact Us. We’re happy to help.
How do I start using ToneMeter?
When you’re composing a message, ToneMeter will appear to help identify and reflect on the emotional tone of your writing. It will alert you with red colored bars just below your message draft. Tap the bars to see its response.
How do I start using Writing Assistant?
If you are on the Essentials plan or above, simply tap the sparkle icon in the Messages section.
Does Writing Assistant change what I write?
Writing Assistant offers suggestions, but it’s up to you whether you use the rewritten messages or not. You can send Writing Assistant’s version of your message, edit it however you want, regenerate another version, or dismiss it. See a step-by-step guide here.
How does this feature work?
Writing Assistant uses a proprietary, advanced AI model that we developed specifically for co-parents like you, so it understands the nuances of co-parenting.
How is my privacy protected with Writing Assistant?
All Writing Assistant processing happens on our secure self-hosted infrastructure. Messages are not shared, sold, or sent to third-party AI providers. Our self-hosted models ensure complete control over data privacy. Learn more in our privacy policy.
Change your co-parenting dynamic
When communication is calmer and more respectful, it becomes easier to handle the everyday parts of co-parenting, too. ToneMeter and Writing Assistant create space for more productive conversations, so co-parenting can feel more organised, more cooperative, and less emotionally draining over time.
- Less tension during everyday co-parenting interactions
- Fewer gray areas around parenting decisions
- Greater consistency and reliability for your family
When communication is calm, decisions become easier to navigate. And your children experience less tension between the people who shape their wellbeing.
Are you ready to communicate calmly?
Get started today with OurFamilyWizard.